“If you have a strong ego [and] something good happens to an acquaintance of yours, [it] makes you feel bad. It’s called envy. … The ego thinks something has been taken away from you because somebody else has received something good. It’s a complete illusion, but that’s the madness of the ego.” — Eckhart Tolle

“We have a tendency to always test people’s love. ‘I want to see how badly I have to behave before you’ll leave me. Because I don’t really think you want me anyhow.’” — Iyanla Vanzant

“I don’t any longer think that it’s possible that any other people can hurt me. They’re just giving me their observation, and I’m giving it meaning. And so I get to choose what that meaning is.”
— Rita, audience member

“You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people. But until you heal the wounds of your past, you are going to bleed.” — Iyanla Vanzant

“You are never angry for the reason you think you are. There’s an older hurt under that.”
— Iyanla Vanzant

“My favorite definition [of forgiveness] is giving up the hope that the past could be any different.”
— Oprah

“Create what you want as opposed to being stuck in what you didn’t have.” — Iyanla Vanzant

“Every word you speak and every thought you think is an affirmation for your future.”
— Cheryl Richardson

“Find the place where you are most ashamed. … Opposite of that statement is the best truth for setting you free now.” — Martha Beck

“When you don’t show up as who you are, people fall in love with who you’re not. Then when they find out who you are, that’s when they leave.” — Iyanla Vanzant

“Love people enough to tell them the truth. And respect them enough to know that they can handle it.” — Iyanla Vanzant

“Life gives you an endless supply of do-overs.” — Iyanla Vanzant

“If you start from the place of being grateful—this is what I love when I keep a gratitude journal, trying to do at least five things in a day that I’m grateful for—it means you look at the day differently.” — Oprah